The rules are…. There are NO Rules!

Published by Karie Millspaugh on July 3, 2014July 3, 2014

A life without limitations… breathing nice and easy….

It was last summer and INSANELY hot here in Las Vegas…whew! It’s hot here now! I was talked into going to a women’s magazine event at a prestige country club after my workday. I caved and went hoping there was food somewhere at the venue since I hadn’t had dinner yet and didn’t really have lunch earlier that day. Off to the venue we go… with 2 of my co-workers.

We created new friends, we chatted, we laughed and we took full advantage of the free wine samples. After a few rounds I then ran into a past “Beverly Hills 90210” Star, you may know him as “Steve” … Ian Ziering. See pics of him and myself and my crazy co-workers in the silly photo booth. Good times! So the evening progressed along with my hunger pains combined with a wine buzz, then add over 100 degree temps and Ms. Karie is spinning… help! I must eat something before my blood sugar goes bananas!

So the three of us venture off to what appears to be a very nice bar/restaurant as a part of the country club, we stroll in and tell the hostess a table for 3 please…thank you. She sits us down and we grab the menu, mouth-watering and placing orders immediately.

I ordered a nice grilled salmon… I could ALMOST taste it!

Then we noticed that others from the networking event were not getting seated as it was a “country club members only” restaurant. OOPS! Hmmmm … just act normal, maybe no one will ask if I had golfed that day in my red dress and 4 inch heels… keep looking down and not at the manager. (giggle) So we got away with it! Our food arrived and we WOLFED it down…no lie! Tasted SO GOOD and EVEN better because we weren’t supposed to be there! Hee hee…. Not sure how that worked out or if it was the confidence that we showed as we walked in with our, “wait on me swagger”.

I share this silly story with you to explain a point. The rules are …there are NO RULES! If we had walked in skeptical or had seen the sign that said members only we may not have attempted to get seated. Fear would have set in and the usual self questioning. People can read that vibration and energy from a mile away.

So how can this pertain to your life? How many times do you catch yourself holding back because those aren’t “the rules” or that someone else has already programmed your mind into believing that “the rules” don’t apply to you. Here are some examples…” you can’t run a business without a business degree”… WRONG !! (insert buzzer noise here) I can introduce you to 10 people in a matter of seconds that prove that theory wrong. Does a degree help? Of course it does… but it’s not the be… all- end… all.

How about this one? This one is common in my field… you have to be a size 2 to be a health coach. (hit that buzzer!) Nope… health is health…and it comes in all sizes. What matters is how you FEEL and if you are at YOUR ideal weight. Do you see how silly rules and limitations can keep you stalled at the “wait to be seated” line wondering if you will ever get to play in the game of life?

So the next time you find yourself stuck on the sidelines reading the list of rules and guidelines ask yourself these 3 questions:

1) Are you just looking for an excuse to not participate? Hunting for a red flag? A sign of fear and resistance.

2) Is anyone going to die or get hurt if you bend or break the rules? Any major felonies, jail time??

3) Who made the rule in the first place? Is it an old belief from past generations or someone else’s “truth”?

If those 3 questions give you clarity to move forward, don’t hesitate! JUMP FORWARD!

So when life drops that velvet red rope in front of you and says, NO you cannot enter… find a way around it! Rules are meant to be broken. ~”Says the woman that broke free from the box she was forced to live in for years and years…”

I want you to LIVE BIGGER THAN LIFE and sometimes the air holes in your box that you’ve punched through just aren’t enough…BUST FREE and BREATHE from limitations and beliefs that make you play smaller than who you want to be. Society doesn’t get to place a lid on your happiness….