Negativity hurts
No more self abuse!
Ive decided to stop beating myself up
I had a bad day
the kind where you just feel stuck and unhappy. You see everything all around you that you havent achieved yet and it makes you feel lost and empty
So then the thoughts come
you know the ones that Im referring to. The ones that are very abusive to yourself.
I still havent lost my dreaded 10lbs yet
I need to find a bigger home
Im not living in my beach house yet
I still drive the same car
Im still single
I want to travel more
My business isnt at the level I want it to be
I havent paid off some debt yet that I desperately want to
Feel that heaviness? I sure do!
Do you see how abusive that can be when you are thinking these thoughts all day? Beating myself up instead of encouraging me.
I would NEVER speak to my clients this way or my family members yet I allow myself this type of verbal abuse?
Why do we do that?! Treat ourselves like our own worse enemy?
I know Im a driven personality but geesh! Can I be any more negative and mean to myself? Dont answer that (smile)
Yes I have these days too and my first reaction is to go to bed and hide. I start to feel PHYSICALLY ill head starts pounding, my throat starts to ache and I want to hide from the world under the covers.
My dear friend
I know you can relate. We all have these days
so let me show you how I turn things around quickly.
I was once told by a dear mentor of mine, that a whole day is TOO LONG to feel bad. He told me 30 minutes is all I get
then get back on the happy wagon!
So
this is how I turn my bad days around
when I catch it.
First step is awareness. Why do I feel this way? Whats going on? Allow yourself to get quiet and ask some questions
I was feeling BORED was my first thoughts. Then overwhelmed
then terribly UN motivated.
Why do I feel bored? Well its because Ive mastered everything in my business. I hadnt taken on anything new recently to grow and expand my mind. So Im going to take on a new project or two that will allow me to grow and learn like never before.
Overwhelmed because I still feel like a failure
see thoughts above.
What about my lack of motivation? Well
in the midst of feeling like a failure its a bit hard to get back on the horse.
Here goes the shift
are you ready? Im going to switch that silly list around!
I lost 5lbs already and inches while firming up in all the right areas
I have a very adorable cozy home right now in a very nice neighborhood
I may not have my beach house yet but Im only 5 hours to the California coast line and I am looking at real estate
My car isnt brand new, but its PAID FOR!
I may be single (selectively by choice) but Im a damn good catch for the RIGHT GUY!
My 2015 plans include A LOT more travel
I get to be my own boss!! WOO HOO! I work for ME!!! And I have the very best clients that are AMAZING! I also have achieved balance at a whole new level!
There will always be debt in my life somewhere at some point, who cares? I have a game plan to pay it off.
Did you feel that energy shift? I sure did!
When you start to see yourself go downward in that spiral of despair make a list like I did and shift it to the glass is half full mindset with a NEW LIST!
Lets face it it could always be worse, right?
The beautiful part is that we get to have this experience together to reshape and remold our lives.
After all we are the creators! Lets choose a better day tomorrow
Sound good?
Much love, empathy and encouragement,
Karie Millspaugh
Business and Lifestyle Coach
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