My coach really pisses me off!

She is always pushing me outside of my comfort zone!

Making me try NEW things and I’m sick and tired of the following up and accountability…  I grumbled to myself one day in mid October.  Why did I sign up for this program anyway?  I don’t have the time for this and I’m feeling overwhelmed.

Then I remembered how much change I was adjusting to in such a short time.  I was readjusting to my daughter being home for the school year, my new coaching program that I was leading and finally working for myself FULL TIME!  In that mix of change, I added a new Mind Body Mentor to my world and I was swimming fast with the current of change but kept feeling the tide pull me backward.

If you’ve ever hired a coach, you may have experienced a similar result.  One of overwhelm, frustration and almost a detest for the very divine person that God placed in your life for a PURPOSE! Usually that feeling of resistance shows up around month 3 or sooner.  That’s when I know the metamorphosis of myself is showing up… the overwhelm and resistance is that necessary evil that NEW GROWTH and TRANSFORMATION is on the other side.

Resistance can look like many things.

It can manifest outside of us or internally with our thoughts and actions.  We can create DRAMA in our lives to keep us from moving forward.  It can also come in the package of Blame, Excuses and Denial.   Your ego (logical side that shows up out of NOWHERE and always at the wrong time) wants to justify the cost.  Is this too expensive, is this the best use of my time and money?  Maybe I shouldn’t invest in this for myself?  Those fears sneak up and are also a sign of resistance.

SO … I almost gave up on myself.  I knew my coach was committed to bringing me to the other side of my own worst enemy, MYSELF.

I went for a long walk and asked myself some deep questions when this resistance showed up.

I looked back at the many other coaches and mentors before her and noticed that my stubborn self would show up right before I would immerse from that cocoon into a butterfly!

The realization of what I was feeling and sensing wasn’t logic at all it was resistance.  I was starting to grow and change and the universe was testing my commitment level…and DAMMIT I almost let it win!

I came back from that walk with a new found FIERCENESS and DETERMINATION to make this investment IN MYSELF stick! After all, I had asked the universe for a coach to help me on my mindset and they delivered. She was holding up her end of the bargain and I was choosing to fail.

Fast Forward – 6 weeks later… I LOVE MY COACH!  Yes it’s a love hate relationship (grin)

I cannot believe how far I’ve come!  I am in AWE of how much we have covered in such a short time and how my mindset is at a whole NEW LEVEL of consciousness.  My fears aren’t as REAL and my FAITH is a lot stronger each day.

I used to dread the weekly sessions and mastermind calls thinking I would be judged or not be viewed as taking this seriously.

I now EMBRACE the calls… invest my time in processing each opportunity assignment, creating more balance in my life and more importantly… DUMPING some crazy limiting beliefs as if they were yesterdays dirty laundry and EMBRACING some gorgeous new sexy beliefs that were more like a sequined cocktail dress in their place.

And guess what???  Those new beliefs bring me A LOT more JOY… PEACE…CONTENTMENT and I’m ecstatic that I didn’t choose to fail.  I didn’t choose to give up on myself either… I broke through the resistance barrier that has shown up time and time again with me and my mentors…and I kicked resistance to the curb once again!

If you can relate to my story and experience.  My one suggestion to you is that you take a step outside of yourself and see where those thoughts are coming from.  Do you always react this way to leadership, bosses, managers or anyone else that has “authority” over you.  Does being told what to do turn you into a stubborn monster?

I know I personally feel that rules are meant to be broken or that they apply to everyone BUT me.  Yes, I’m strong willed. (grin)  I also know that God places those people into my life for a divine purpose and on the other side of that transformation is love and adoration for my coach.

To all of my current and past coaches…. I LOVE YOU TO PIECES!  Without your love, guidance and patience I wouldn’t be the woman I am today.

And to all of my past, present and future clients… I 100% understand when I’m the LAST person you want to face that day but I LOVE the breakthroughs and they are so worth it in the end!!

Feel free to write in the comments below if you’ve had a similar experience.

All my hugs and well wishes,
Karie Millspaugh

Business Coach for Entrepreneurs ~ Purpose to Profits